13 Relationship Nuggets – Hard Truths People Hate To Learn

God never promised us perfect relationships!
EVERYONE is a DAMAGED PRODUCT from BIRTH. We all need acceptance & help from others who would genuinely choose to give it all it takes! You are well-suited to HELP HEAL ANOTHER person!

Relationships fail when people choose NOT to mature. Immature people avoid reconciliation! It is immature to avoid healing of fractured emotion! The immature shuts-down communication that could help work out relationship differences!

It Is IMPORTANT To Be Involved In Improving Others! Life is usually miserable for those who prefer to eliminate others so as to promote LONE ambition! It is better to build LOVE someone or participate in building a LOVING community! Depression & suicide could be hard to contemplate when working hard at practical goals to help improve others!

Value others’ lives! You are not better off having others SUPPRESSED while you sit on top of the relationship pack. It creates tensions for you. If you love manipulation & excessive control, it would only backfire. Your insecurity, anxiety, worries & stress will multiply!

There is health in JOY! Joy is what you get when your investment in someone else results in smile, radiance & happiness. Give JOY & expect to get JOY back. Invest in a partner’s joy, in due time, God will satisfy & supernaturally return your joy, especially when you do it in God or Christlikeness!

No one make it in life without others! No one is without enemy! Not all adversaries can be destroyed! Grow up! Accommodate others! Give reasonable room for faulty people! Hopefully they learn right lessons from you before too long or too late!

Pathways of happiness, success, promotion & victory are littered with faulty folks who test tolerance limits. Build relationships! Everyone including yourself is a work-in-progress. Some difficult people are in place to improve your needed love capacity & human development relationship skills! No organization, entity, government or society develops without excellent people-management skills!

Life is about people! You only thrive in life to the extent you engage true LOVE to accommodate others regardless of prevailing faulty nature!

True LOVE is a spiritual ability that can be grown to increase emotional capacity for accepting others through high tolerance of their obvious deficiencies & non-obvious tendencies.

Life & relationship becomes stress-less when you master human-beings’ tripartite nature. Everyone can be Mental-nuts. Prepossessed. Divine-wrecks.

Again, nearly everyone is a “MENTAL CASE” with Caged Mindset, Preprogrammed Attitude & Lacking Divine Control! We all have to learn To Live With At Least One Such Individual! It could be a friend, a spouse, a partner or colleague!

God created human relationship to establish balance & order through companionship. An average person hates to be balanced/ordered!

Yeah! Celebrate singleness all you want. You were not created to be single but to actively work-out an intimate relationship! Haa!

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CROSSING CROSSROADS OF COMPROMISES!

Compromise may have become an acceptable standard in the world, especially within political systems, BUT, it certainly remains unacceptable to God. Compromising Bible standard remains the number one destroyer of God’s WILL among God’s people today, especially those HIS saints that have been given Kingdom Assignments. Compromise is the gray area between TRUTH & LIES!

Compromise is a conjoining of half of a truth with half of a lie! There is so much compromise of Bible TRUTHs today that it seems that most people believe more in compromised-Truths than absolute-TRUTHs!

In making compromises people bend over to accept the unacceptable. Some Church leaders will compromise telling the whole truth, inadvertently hurting God’s absolute truth. Many church goers compromise what they know to be Biblical truth while hiding behind popular excuses that allows indulging in sins & selfishness, shaming the gospel of Christ with hypocrisy & double standard.

Biblical depictions of God and his expectation of HIS sinners-turned-into-saints believers showed that with HIM is either YES or NO! There is nothing like “maybe” with God. God is not involved in political correctness… Meanwhile, in few Biblical events where God “accepted to compromise” to do what mankind dictated, it always ended with perilous consequences on man’s accounts…

Whenever God overlooked and seemed to “compromisingly” accept man’s insistence, in the short run, man runs free, having his/her ways. BUT, in the longer run, HE ends up punishing man’s stubborn will, insisting on & having HIS OWN WAYS ultimately! That God accommodates our compromises in the short run is no indicator of His approval of our ways… He only gives us more time to get-things-right!

Even JESUS sought a compromise for the cup to Passover before He finally submitted to God’s will! THAT IS WHAT A CROSS IS… HAVING TO ENDURE THE INCONVENIENT BECAUSE GOD WANTS IT TO BE SO! That JESUS still carried & died on the cross for the sins of mankind was a great example of crossing crossroads of compromising. Like each one of us today, JESUS had the power of choice to renege on carrying on with God-inspired WILL/CROSS. God’s will is usually a cross that is almost never convenient!

Every Believer has been told to carry his or her own cross & FOLLOW after JESUS example. We may not have to endure a cross in the literal sense as some early disciples/apostles did, but there is no doubt that we will be faced with compromising situations and circumstances when we either endure our own “cross” or compromise and put the Cross of Christ to shame again!

True Christianity is still for carrying “crosses” for Christ (not jewelry crosses)! The place of tempting compromises should always be turned into a place of choosing to hang in there, carrying one’s cross in Christ rather than choosing the more comfortable convenience of excuses, satisfying SELF or satisfyingly pleasing men (&women)! WHENEVER COMPROMISE IS ACCOMMODATED INSTEAD OF ABSOLUTE BIBLICAL TRUTH, THE EXPECTED ACCOMPANYING DEMONSTRATION OF CHRIST’S RESURRECTION POWER IS HINDERED FROM BEING CELEBRATED AND IS SABOTAGED…

There are many who live continually in deliberate compromises. They are the ones who hate and feel judged by absolute truths… They would rather give excuses and perambulate about how there are no new crosses to carry in Christ! THOSE WHO COMPROMISE THE FULL GOSPEL LOVE TO ONLY TELL ABOUT THE “GOODIES” IN CHRIST!

We all know that itchy ears cannot tolerate and hate to be taught about carrying Kingdom crosses! Like apostle Paul who needed GRACE to bear a God-permitted “thorn in the flesh”, every believer can ask God for GRACE to endure whatever “cross” they have to carry because of God’s WILL…

GRACE IS NOT ONLY FOR GOODIES IN CHRIST, IT IS ALSO FOR CROSSES IN CHRIST!!!

Just like JESUS, many believers would have to carry their own “crosses”, facing their own red seas or instead they shall remain under oppression of their Biblical Egypt. Crosses have to be carried to cross from failure to Biblical triumph. Crosses are carried to cross from alone-ness in ministry to having many sons & daughters of faith… crosses must be carried to cross from man-made defeat to God-made victory. And crosses have to be carried to cross from earthly death unto eternal life!

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Have you ever carried any cross in Christ? Are you carrying any cross for Christ?? Are you willing to carry crosses for Christ? Every true believer has a cross to carry for Christ! Compromise is not what Christ sent us to perfect, His lighter Cross is what he has assigned for each one of us to carry in HIS name and to the ends of the earth…

Embrace your God assigned cross, if you have one & carry it diligently without compromising UNTIL HE says WELL-DONE!!! Shalom!
Much Love!

Understanding Entry & Exits Of Relationships

It is important to keep in mind that all of God’s creations have ins and outs. There are births and death, beginning and endings, starts and finishes, planting and plucking, inroads and exit routes. Human beings are created to survive by inhaling & exhaling, hearing and speaking, ingesting and excreting, on and off heart-pumping, as well as by reproductive conceiving and birthing. God makes rooms for balanced actions and reactions. We all know that even sin, has a start and end-results. For every building that follows standard building codes, there are at least two doors. One is primarily intended for entry and another as an option for exit. Every nation mounts gates and gateways for monitoring in and out travels of citizens and foreigners. pexels-photo When God created the first human, He laid down certain grounds rules of engagements right at the beginning of the man-God relationship, and made clear on how things can start and end. Mankind was made to understand limits and boundaries of certain beginnings and conclusions. God is called alpha and omega, which is also known as the beginning and the end. All through the Bible, we have stories of entry and exits of several Bible characters. We also saw the beginning & end of Old Testament principles and practices. Now we know how the New Testament started, and have been told how it will end. pexels-photo-277670 Worthwhile love relationships do not blur-out importance of clear and notable understanding of entry and exits. Many people are so excited to start a relationship that they consciously chose to be fearful of not asking questions about when it would end, because they do not want to disrupt the beginning of a fuzzy-minded engagement. They refuse to clearly set agreeable rules of engagement and what exit routes are going to be. Even when some read out, or repeat, wedding vows, they mostly do so, out of religious obligations, and not necessarily out of clear, well considered, mutual understanding of the terms and conditions of such meaningful vows. Most religious vows states the exit of marriages as “till death do us part” because God expects marriage love relationships to be a lifetime covenant with one opposite-sex partner. What most people lack clear understanding of regarding covenants, is that, covenants have vows and stipulated consequences for violation of vows. Even God does not assume that every human marriage will end ONLY after either or both party dies. Many marriages terminate abruptly when stipulated commitments are consciously sabotaged, before “death do us part.” There are provisions and counsels in the Bible that most people miss, regarding conducts that keeps marriages strong, and the ones that can make it unworkable. In most non-marital relationships, people already know by nature, why and when they start the work, colleague, neighborly or friendship relationship, and that it will terminate at some unpredictable time. They kind of have clear understanding of the loose (society-defined) boundaries and are hardly under any illusions that the relationship is NOT automatically going to be until “death do us part.” behind barss More relationships are likely to work better when parties involved educate themselves clearly on mutually agreed exit terms. There is likely to be more respect for one another in a relationship when each person is aware and ready to avoid whatever could provoke the other to seek exit. God did not desire to keep anyone in perpetual jail or prison with a notorious relationship tormentor. There are no human relationships that work on auto-drive or auto-pilot. Relationships works for those who roll up their sleeves and keep it working as a male or female. Marital relationship in itself is God’s plan for a male and female to complete, complement and cement one another. Since all humans are naturally individualistic, it takes patience and studious learning to let go of such innate stubborn disposition, and be bonded, while allowing a partner to penetrate and be integrated into one’s virtual or physical space/territory, authority and mindset. I can only pray for you reader that God will help your relationship find the joy and genuine happiness that will maximize and extend the days and years between a clear start, a fulfilling in between, and, God-planned end, of your relationship. In JESUS NAME! AMEN!!! Keeping Life Simple By Understanding Marriage law & order ad message portrait

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Is Competition Good Or Bad In Relationships?

It may not be easy for some to accept that life is  full  of competition of all sorts. Right from the time millions of spermatozoa for each individual were released inside the thighs of a soon-to-become pregnant mother, to the struggle to take first breath of oxygen as a new-born baby, and subsequently having to jostle for personal space and worthwhile self-recognition, every living human being had been wired to competitively seek “what is in it for me first” and not necessarily “what is in it for another first.” Many are wired to strive against others, and to covet what others already have, or seek better accomplishment to impress/show-off themselves as being preferred above others.

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Many things about life and relationships encouraged people to compete with one another. Admission into schools have elements of competition infused in them. Most times, limited school spaces are reserved for the topmost qualified. Others who could not meet up requirements are left behind. Nobody likes to be among losers who get left behind from receiving coveted positions. There are workplaces that pitch co-workers against one another, sometimes to get the best out of their service, and other times to make one knock another off balance, or get fired.

In all sports, there may be hundreds or thousands of participants, yet only the topmost few get a trophy, with their faces singled out for celebrity status symbols. In politics, there is always fierce aggressive competition to win votes, which is pursued many times by engaging less than honorable tools, to pull another down, while seeking to get a desired office, at all costs. There are always limited employment opportunities. Those who get coveted jobs do not have much of a choice than to engage competitive measures that make them get employed at the expense of others. There are many other examples of human competitions that have been inculcated in people and cultured many to elevate SELF-centered winnings, to the exclusion of, and at disadvantaged expense of others. Few examples include local, state, national, or international beauty contests, kingship contests, game shows, music awards, dance competitions, academic debates and even lotteries.

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In every department and faculty of modern life, it has become key for people to hustle to competitively edge others out. Many people who refuse to compete for space, attention, and or resources, are considered to be slack, and sometimes they really are. In a world where most people operate by crab-culture and shark mentality, slack folks usually have only themselves to blame. Many bite their own fingers wondering why they are not on top of successful accomplishments or the list of the best of bests. Such made it become necessary and essential for many who chose to assess their need for competing, or not.

The prevalent necessity to compete at every twist and turn of life has many inbibing the same self-conscious attitude in intimate relationships. This writing therefore seeks to figure out if such dominant mannerism should feature prominently among love-partners, or whether it should be curtailed or subsumed. For naturally minded people, the answer may be an immediate YES. But, for spiritually minded people in Christ JESUS, it seems critically important to review the necessity or viability of competing to have upper hand and superior competitive advantage in a Christian relationship. Competing over fellow human being may not be God’s intention, ever. It could be a side-effect of sin-propelled declining human nature.

Spiritually speaking, we know that good and great things do not happen automatically or by default. Most great things happen by putting in adequately needed efforts and required activities. Not much good fall cheaply on people’s laps, unless they are already used, passed down trophy, assets, glory or secondary recognition. There is a natural spiritual atmosphere that stifles automatic productivity. Most things on earth are naturally declining except for ages and calendar years. New-born baby quality of life counts down from the moment he or she is born. In another 70, 80, or 100 years, the soul will have to return to its maker, away from the earth surface.

The first Bible man had the best of life at the very onset. Subsequently, things started depleting and taking downward spirals. Relationship began to get more sour. Making ends meet for family became more labor-intensive and sweaty. Keeping healthy was no longer flawlessly inbuilt. Serene environment and atmospheres were no longer to be assumed. Pollution, insecurity and stable lifestyle had to be the new-normal. Every Godly agent like Noah, Elijah, Moses, Jonah, Joseph, Nehemiah, Jeremiah, John the Baptist, JESUS, Peter and Apostle Paul had to work hard within hostile environments before they could achieve whatever Godly assignment and purpose they were called to.

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Today, nations compete with nations, cultures compete with cultures, traditions are up against other traditions, cities fight one against another, tribes and ethnicities compete with other tribes and ethnicities, many families are up in arms against other families, and, even siblings rivalries with one another are rife while competing for family spaces and benefits. For example, Jacob and Esau competed right from their mother’s womb. Ishmael was sent away along with his mother, to avoid competitions for attention, space, resources and recognition, in father of faith, Abraham’s household.

Every war cry is a subtle competition for something, which could just be dominance or superiority control. People who seek to rise up ladders of corporate governance compete for it by seeking better qualifications or simply making sure to gain upper-hand advantage over possible fellow contenders. Many are sharks that hack others down on their way to grabbing organizational leadership ranks.

So, without making long stories, we all are surrounded and enveloped by competitions and competitors. Most situations and circumstances of life are often described in a win or loss parlance. People win or lose depending on how much they hustle, strive, or as may have been specially/divinely favored, or otherwise. The question therefore is, how healthy is competition in love relationships. Is it all good, or, is there a need to strike balances between competing, or not competing with relationship partners?

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It is not clear that God set people up to compete with one another in the first place. Rather he sets each person up on his or her own pedestal and track lane. With God, each one is expected to compete to be BETTER than his or her last effort, activities and life-attempts. God is not known to be into comparing persons with persons, except when the other person gets idle or lazy at own assignment or task. This is because God’s expectation for different individuals are different. A healthy competition with others may therefore be one about striving for virtues that produce common good and not self-centered jostling for selfish ends.

If you want to compete with others, you might want to be the BEST at

  1. Wrestling down corporate demonic opposition while keeping attacks away from mutual relationship territories.
  2. Fighting for common causes than is more than personal vested interests
  3. Running races of being more passionate at God-kinds of LOVE
  4. Walking In the Spirit To Bear Fruits of peaceful, joyful, and productive co-existence, that makes possible for needs to be met and provisions available for all.
  5. Setting emulate-able, grace-full, ambassadorial examples

But, what is your own viewpoint? Comments & Questions are welcome on this developing message!

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Teamwork That Works Relationships

I recently took interest in American football. I was more used to soccer which is what we knew in my part of the world as football. I do watch basketball every once in a long while. That happens mostly when I get trapped watching TV with others. And it is either, there is no way of changing channels without being disrespectful to others or I just cannot help but get glued to see what the outcome of the opposing team sports would be. Most sports are competitive, and they thrive by facing opponents as a well trained team.

I was watching a most-watched news show earlier today. The news show is mostly anchored by, and named after an individual, like “Tonight News By David Muir.” At the closing end of the news, the chief anchor was introduced by another anchor who handled the show on weekends and on other occasions when the chief host is unavoidably unavailable. Whenever that assistant anchor/host or others presents the show without the one to whom the news-show is named after, the unavailable host is profusely acknowledged.

So, earlier this evening, at just a bit over 48 hours to the end of 2017, the main anchor of that NEWS Show spoke through a pre-recorded video to thank viewers, advertisers and his entire TEAM on their involvements and contributions for the year 2017. He thereafter wished everybody including all viewers an early wish of HAPPY NEW YEAR!

The most important part of that thank-you video was the end-credit list of behind-the-scene participants of that TEAM. Functioning like clock-work, without profuse nightly acknowledgement and mention of names, were about a hundred names and faces of folks that did not seem to matter beyond the face that the show was named after. Some had their photos, which were snapped while on duty, shown. Others only had their names listed. In a whole year these folks worked hard to propel and individual’s name. The less than 25 minutes a day, maybe, 360 days a year, NEWS show was all about an individual team-leader until specialists and experts were now showcased. I was particularly impressed by the volume names and extent of specialized units and department that worked hard behind the scenes. One would have thought that the showed had just a few assistants. The lesson for me is, not much can be achieved by running solo-systems.

There is no doubt that most highly rated and successful TV shows or even movies, also operated in similar fashion. Faces like Oprah Winfrey, Joel Osteen, Jimmy Fallon, Stephen Colbert, Joyce Meyer, Steve Harvey, and their likes, have worldwide views and acceptance. Yet unknown to many, is the powerful structures of team-work that props them up to the heights they enjoyed. And, of course, every team member goes home with pays and rewards for their silent important contributions.

Since I lived in the USA, I observed that most successful enterprises, sports, TV shows and organizations worked by strict adherence to TEAM work. No successful team, staffs homogeneous-minded people, but varied-thinking individuals who have something to contribute to a picture that is Bigger than an individual goal. Each unit member is expected to specialize and concentrate on a specific duty, no matter how much such could also engage other areas of responsibilities. The important ingredient of TEAM work is to have people dedicated to specific aspects of a broad plan, assignment or purpose. These teams are never afraid to quickly FIRE and replace any individual or unit that may be hurtful to overall goals and over-aching mission targets.

I know some places in the world where most people are geared to want to accomplish broad goals, missions, assignments and purposes as individuals without specifically creating room to accommodate others’ specialized contribution. An individually will struggle to engage diverse details by him or herself, ALONE, because no one else can be trusted to produce a perfect-enough contribution. There are under-developed nations and endowed people who remain at mediocre success levels because of inability to develop TEAM systems. There can be no major accomplishments and goals in this life until there is working TEAM systems.

Our human body consist of integrated TEAM systems. A team of cells and organs are dedicated to goals of Breathing, Nerve/Sensory Services, Digestive Achievement, Audio/Video Responsibilities, Reproductive Commitments, Transportation, and Health & Wellness Emergency Agents. For each of the above named overall goal or assignment are obvious, central, or leading “names or faces” behind which are millions of behind the scene operators who are also adequately supply enough from the available resource common-wealth. Everybody may not get the same amount of resource, but everyone gets sufficiently enough. Every grumbling or complaining unit, either ejects itself from the TEAM or is sacked to avoid disgruntle cancerous service or disruptive tendencies.

Successfully working governments and governmental organizations consist of integrated TEAM systems. There are too many activities of life that any government are empowered and expected to handle as a government unit. Nobody views Nigeria, USA, Singapore or any other National government as anything else other than one united entity.  But such unit of world government tackles myriads of issues and human services that has to be narrowed down under a team of unit administrators that is service under the face of a President. A President is praised or blamed when any unit of the nation is internationally assessed, regardless than he or she may not have direct responsibility over whatever issue necessitated such fair or unfair judgement. Each government is usually organized around several TEAMs that are commissioned for overseeing details of their area of oversight. On the broader level, Federal Governments oversees States while States oversees Local Governemtns. under each of those oversees body of leaders are Departments, Ministries or Parastatals . These in turn handles issues of Health, Legislature, Justice, Education, Urban Development, Transportation, Electric Power, Agriculture, Military, Immigration, Ports, Aviation, Marine and so on and so forth. Without well coordinated TEAM work, governments cannot function as expected.

While many government have learnt to work details of TEAM systems over hundreds of years or less, many private sector individuals are yet to see the importance and need to embrace TEAM work and its benefits into their bossy-environment business. In Christian circles, longer existing ministry organizations have embraced TEAMwork at the heart of their existence. But many startup church ministers may be trying to re-invent wheels for one-man-show ministry leadership style, instead of imbibing teamwork. Older Churches like the Catholic, Baptist, Anglican, Methodist and others are still standing today because they put teams in place that works their unique belief systems. While many individuals work seamless well within government and organizational  structures, it seem very many are unaware that TEAM systems ought to be integrated as part and parcel of their intimate LOVE-life.

As we prepare for a new year, our prospective goals, plans and intentions may be fruitfully enhanced by prayerfully involving others, not because they are perfect in our own eyes, views or relative to our opinion of them. In teams, there is room for hire, fire and replace. But hopefully the hire is diligently undertaken to avoid breakdowns associated with firings. Where one individual is able to accomplish a thousand unit of success, a well coordinated team of two may achieve a 1000% more, producing ten thousand instead.

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Marital LOVE would have BETTER results when activities and units of the home are clearly defined, spelled-out and laid-out, just like the human body example above. Husbands and wives have to learn to not be sole-expert over every issue of their homes. Rather, the better of the two should be allowed room to be the expert in the respective areas of strengths.

Team-work does not work by micro-managing others. It rather works by allowing each unit to work independently to produce expected results. All that the team expects of its individual is to produce the result for which the unit is established in place. For example, if a graphic artist is employed in a team of broadcasters, it will make no sense to go into the creative arts department to dictate details of expected design output. The designer should be given the imaginary picture and given time to go achieve the design within reasonable time.

True Team-work does not accommodate idleness. Every unit has to be busy producing what it is put in place to achieve. It is idleness that causes trespasses into unsolicited areas. Every Team unit should be busy achieving its purpose or such unit would have to be discarded.

As I learn more about and watched american football, I see team work at its best. The quarter back is the face and brain of the team. The success and failure of the team at any competition will be blamed on the quarter back. Meanwhile, the quarter back cannot win by arrogating superior mindset to individualistic prowess. The quality of a quarter back’s performance depends on how yielded he is to a Coach and how he or she humbly fosters a qualitative flow of esprit-de-corp team-spirit. A football team consist of a team of probably a hundred individuals, even though only eleven can play at a time.

It was amazing for me to understand that each member of an american football team is taught and nourishment-fed in direct necessity of role to be played in the team. The defenders are needed to be heavy-weight-set and fat, so they can effectively use their bodies to fend off approaching opposition. Runners are needed to be athletic and lean so they can run fast and meander in between players of the opposing team. With this team type, runners do not jostle to become defenders, nor vice-versa. The quarter back has to maintain the right mental balance and mood management because he has less than split seconds to determine winning decisions on a field of play.

One more understanding of the American football that caught my fancy, is the fact that team members are switched from time to time depending on the situations and circumstances that a team face, as they play. When it is time to advance into “enemy” territory, more agile running players are brought in, in anticipation of quick penetration into the other teams end-zone, for a touch-down. Otherwise, when it is time to defend team from opposing intrusion, players are switched to have more well-built defenders who come in with their hefty shoulders to “terrorise” and stop the other fast players from claiming yards and ground within their own zone.

I cannot claim to have mastered all that needs to be known about American Football. But, I have learned enough to know that relationships and marriages can thrive better by the lessons and metaphors that the football game, Personalized TV shows, or world-renowned motivation-speaking successes entails. All of these examples worked excellently well by understanding how a TEAM plays. They show that it is important to hire right, fire right, replace right, know when to switch quickly depending on unexpected situations and circumstance, knowing to have right reactions to expected offensive approaches, knowing what to feed on in preparation to life-plays and learning all that is needed per time to successfully defend space/territory alongside teammates, who may not even be perfect at playing their own assigned roles.

True LOVE is a team work. True LOVE works with those who have team-spirit, team-rule-understanding,  and team-dedication. Team work works by embracing strenghts and weaknesses of others whether they are above or below one’s self-positioned level.

Teamwork works because people work it. It works better in several fields of life than any one-man run shows ever did. Real LOVE is not individualistic. True LOVE adjusts in every way possible to intimate one, or loved ones, in exact same way teams manage to keep together regardless of forces that are always at play to rip them apart.

In marriages, there are pre-defined roles and rules of play, according to the Bible. To not understand, or refuse to pay attention, to Bible-defined marriage guidance rules, would be to stubbornly create wrong marital work environment. Of course, marriage is a Bible stipulated teamwork for individuals who know that each party has parts and roles to play, to stop an opposing demonic spiritual force from defeating a union that could work under God. Marriage would work better for those who reasonably implements team-rules, team-understanding, team-spirit and opposition team-fighting team-strategies.

 

 

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5 Reasons Men & Women Don’t Mix Easy

Some reasons why men and women do not mix easily in relationship includes the facts that their:

  1. Mental Worldview is primarily different
  2. Sexual expectations are opposites
  3. Approach to Life Assignments Vary & not easily alike
  4. Bottom-lines are not usually the same
  5. Spiritual Sensitivity Are Poles Apart

That is why humility, wisdom & maturity are importantly required to foster unity in every relationship. These qualities do not just come by will-power but by disciplined learning and understanding of true LOVE, which is primarily spiritual. Spiritual LOVE delivers needed keys that makes such uncommon qualities to be cheaply available. JESUS Christ came for the sole reason of exemplifying true LOVE as a basis for improving relationships.

 

Symptoms of Immaturity – Immature Ones Are Always Easily UPSET!

  • Unable to accept a principled stand against own false actions, habit, tradition, crazy custom and wrongly upheld crowd-mentality-culturing
  • Pettiness and being easily provoked by contrary pronouncements, views, opinions or painful rebuke
  • Status-consciousness – always age/accomplishment/gender-conscious with competitive self-comparison
  • Emotional negative sensitivity to receiving any form of correction because tone and tact are more important than adjusting to confrontational truths
  • Taking most issues too personal because of inability to separate principled stands from personal attacks

 

Signs of Maturity – Matured Ones Disciplines/Seasons Self With WISDOM

WISDOM engages:

  • Willingness to wait patiently on opposition with anticipation of, soonest, better understanding
  • Intimate interest in working differences towards possible agreeable central theme
  • Solving issues and problems while avoiding emotional upheavals
  • Daring to discuss thorny issues by being level-headed
  • Offering options and positions for accommodating other provocative positions
  • Minimizing offences by picking truthful words while staying afloat of turbulent rhetoric

 

IMMATURE Actions Includes:

  • Impulsive Intolerant insistence on own ways and views ALONE
  • Miscalculating & Maintaining of detrimental rigid standpoints
  • Moribund ”Milking” of points only for self-centered opinionated arguments
  • Arrogantly antagonizing another, with prejudiced positions, just for the fun of it
  • Temper-tantrum deployment as a regular tool, used for maximum manipulation
  • Unwillingness and inability to focus on ultimate mutual overall goals and bigger picture
  • Repeats of habits and mistakes that produces unproductive outcomes all the time
  • Embarrassing others just to make self the “front and center” of most matters.

 

MATURE Relationship Reactions Includes:

  • Maintaining positive merciful posture that is pre-calculated for hopeful achievement of mutual peace and progress
  • Actively engaging in thoughtful actions that is calculated to produce acceptable outcomes
  • Temperately training self to be sound in controlled use of words that will more easily achieve purposed end goals
  • Unwilling to allow less than best possibilities hold sway in interactions
  • Re-affirms others and smartly disarms from toxic tendencies
  • Experience is amassed and properly deployed to encourage easy conflict resolutions.

 

You may want to ask for divine HELP since none of us was born with enough humility, wisdom or maturity from our mother’s womb. I would personally pray as follows:

LORD Jesus, I ask that you will fill my heart with supernatural LOVE ability. I do not want to be taken for granted in my intimate relationship. I do not want to be taken undue advantage of. I therefore ask to you come in my heart and teach me to enjoy life and my important relationships. I would like to be a worthy example of a true lover. Please make that possible for me. I pray that you will touch hearts of people around me. Please give such ones ability to receive and reciprocate true love towards me also. In JESUS name I prayed. Amen.

 

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KEEPING LIFE SIMPLE BY UNDERSTANDING TRUE LOVE

For life to be kept simple, personal relationships and involvements with other people have to be delicately well-managed. The book on true LOVE, is a massive tool to help achieve a properly managed, peace-filled, fruitful & simple life.

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Why Some Abandon Marital LOVE.

Some have disappointments about marital relationship and have decided to not want anything to do further with another opposite sex. Many have replaced the space in their hearts for a true LOVE with other activities and non-marital people. Meanwhile, it is still possible to enjoy God’s will in marriage.

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8 Passionate Prayers About LOVE (2)

It is easy to let go of workable relationship without seeking solutions. But, for those who may realize that there are no spotless saints or angels anywhere, prayerful tools can be engaged to resolve even the most difficult relationship conflicts

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Arising Back Into Arms Of LOVE

Many act like the Bible prodigal son. Male or female, such take undue advantage of another's magnanimity without even knowing what they did. Some need to recognize how not to mistakenly abort but return into a true LOVE relationship.

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12 Insights & Prayers For A Stronger & More Loving WOMAN

A lifetime book material that throws helpful insights into womanhood. It contains LOVE nuggets as well as uncommon truths on why women usually act and react the way they do.

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What LOVE Is, What LOVE Is Not (Book)

True LOVE is God’s attribute and characteristics. It is beyond casual friendship or romance. If more people understand God kind of LOVE, which is not stupid, blind or ignorant, they will enjoy better life and smoother flowing relationships.

$12.99

A 31-day Guide On Longer-Lasting LOVE

A book that helps heal the control center of your life. Your relationship is determined by the state of your own heart more than it is by another person.

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KEEPING LIFE SIMPLE BY UNDERSTANDING MARRIAGE “LAW & ORDER”

The book corrects many myths and misrepresentations of Bible truths on family. Many have become negligent of Bible requirements and take core-foundation marriage “law and order” for granted.

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Roots Of LOVE Complications

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Gen 2:18 (KJV)

Adam’s LIFE was peaceful, without any negative circumstance or consequences; UNTIL another human/marital relationship was introduced; From Then commenced Third-party splitting entities/interests that brought about;  Misrepresentations, Misinformation, Manipulations, Intrigues, Egoistic Deceptions & Destiny Destruction.

Since then, many have instinctively preferred to be ALONE than to be bothered with tackling complicating relationships. Even though anyone given to human/marital relationship may be plagued by conflicts/conflict resolutions or Need for Patience & Retarded Personal Pace, yet a LONER would suffer more from boredom/ isolation with needs of having to fill/occupy human interaction space/room with other work/play mundane activities.

God wanted human relationships. He introduced it so that humans could have intimate fun that is beyond animalistic/environmental interaction levels.

Since human relationship was God’s idea. Resolving complications in relationships would always be God’s idea too. Obtaining tools for enjoying relationships must require involving God and His ideas. We understand that God is LOVE. Since God is a Spirit, LOVE must also be spiritual, and should be spiritually embraced.

LOVE cannot be restricted to emotional chemistry of coitus. LOVE is more like  an overseeing template that makes coitus meaningful. It is the supervisory supernatural sense that regulates how to mutually assimilate, accommodate or integrate another party into one physical or virtual space where civil rights are mutually shared and belief systems are frankly collapsed to merge at some melting points.

Absence of true LOVE in any relationship compels aggressions, competition and ego-full selfishness. The presence of true LOVE instills peace, patience and productive partnering.

True LOVE is not instinctive, it is learned. It is a base-thought adjusting culture that is often regarded as insensible by those who are naturally cultured by impatience, vengefulness and demonic desires to dominate others.

To truly LOVE, the right language and sensible use of words have to be organized and offered with careful vulnerable-room that creates a disarming environment of trust, that is devoid of paranoia.

It is important for people in need of LOVE and its embrace to pray constantly and consistently for fresh flows of God’s  kind of LOVE in their heart so it can become devoid of hate, hatred, or hatefulness. May your life be truly surrounded by Godly LOVE and Godlikeness, in JESUS name.

Why Some Abandon Marital LOVE.

Some have disappointments about marital relationship and have decided to not want anything to do further with another opposite sex. Many have replaced the space in their hearts for a true LOVE with other activities and non-marital people. Meanwhile, it is still possible to enjoy God’s will in marriage.

$5.00

Why LOVE Fails

Fantasy, Aggression, Insincerity, lackadaisical lying and sexual impropriety are some traits that bedevils too many relationships. There are counsels on how not to allow these and other factors destroy the fabric and foundation of a union.

$5.00

KEEPING LIFE SIMPLE BY UNDERSTANDING TRUE LOVE

For life to be kept simple, personal relationships and involvements with other people have to be delicately well-managed. The book on true LOVE, is a massive tool to help achieve a properly managed, peace-filled, fruitful & simple life.

$19.99

A 31-day Guide On Longer-Lasting LOVE

A book that helps heal the control center of your life. Your relationship is determined by the state of your own heart more than it is by another person.

$12.99

What LOVE Is, What LOVE Is Not (Book)

True LOVE is God’s attribute and characteristics. It is beyond casual friendship or romance. If more people understand God kind of LOVE, which is not stupid, blind or ignorant, they will enjoy better life and smoother flowing relationships.

$12.99

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